Are You Working on Being the Best You to Be Able to Have a Healthy Relationship?
Last week my family and I flew to Port Maria, St. Mary, one of Jamaica's smallest parishes, for my grandmother’s funeral. While it was a somber time for the Tucker Tribe, we created a number of precious memories in her honor. My grandmother, Christine Tucker, was a virtuous woman. She epitomizes the bible verses Proverbs 31:10-31.
The funeral took place Thursday, Sept. 8th and I had insane anxiety. However, once the funeral began and I heard all the amazing things the community had to say I somehow felt at ease. Affectionately known as Mama Chris, my grandmother always embraced anyone in need with love and support. She was remembered for a number of things. From the many stories, I learned my grandmother was an instrumental member of the Port Maria United Church, also known as Kirk Church. She helped a number of people secure jobs and gave a number of children money to attend school. If someone passed away and did not have any family to attend his or her funeral, my grandmother was in attendance to share her love and pray for the deceased. She was also there for new beginnings such as weddings, christenings and more. She displayed an indelible example of service to mankind as well as taught and exemplified how to be God fearing, loving, caring, affectionate, forgiving, and sympathetic to those in need. Many members touted her as the Mother Teresa of Port Maria.
As I listened intensely on the amazing words that spewed from community members, family and friends' lips, I sat in 89-degree weather pondering. My grandmother lived a full life. Because of the God fearing woman she was, God delivered her a man she was equally yoked with who loved her passionately. However, she did not wait to find a man to be a good woman and even after she found the “love of her life” she continued to be a virtuous woman, inspiring and shaping the community.
I wrote all of this to ask, Are you working on being a virtuous woman for the man God will deliver into your life? or are you too busy holding on to someone God has already removed from your life? God will always bring the right people into your life, but you have to let the wrong people go. More often than not, the feeling of rejection you may feel from a breakup or a situationship is really for your protection.
In addition, and I’m sure all my single women and men have heard this, are you actually working on being a better you? Have you focused on developing yourself? My grandfather knew my grandmother was a good woman and was worth far more than diamonds, which is why he married her. However, I am sure my grandmother worked on developing herself first. She worked on becoming a whole person, not a half a person. She loved herself first and that love attracted others.
As we navigate the dating realm in a new era, remember to be steadfast to who you are, your dreams and aspirations and the right person will snatch you up. Trust your gut.
Remember: sometimes we lose sight and get caught up in this love thing we forget who we are. Don't beat yourself up. Take a moment, take a breathe and refocus on you, while doing good for others. God will place the right people in your life when the time is right.
“Give light and people will find the way.” – Ella Baker
Written by Nikki Shariee
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