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Pro-Choice vs. Pro-Life

I often discuss the events that occur prior to mating, but I rarely discuss the repercussions that may transpire following intimate sexual contact. I’m sure we are all aware of what can happen if a condom is not used. While guys are only physically vulnerable to sexually transmitted infections (STIs), ladies have to worry about STIs, the risk of pregnancy and possibly the idea of abortion.

With so many discussions circulating pro-choice or pro-life, what better time than now to have my own dialogue. I am 100 percent pro-choice. I do not believe the government, or anyone for that matter, should be able to make a decision about my womb or another woman’s womb. While many states do not have any specific decree that secures or protect the rights for abortion, political authority should not be conspiring to castoff the idea.

This debate has been revisited because I have a friend who admitted to me she’s carrying a child. The guy who she had sexual intercourse with strongly wants my friend to birth his child. Though she feels guilty, she confessed she will be getting an abortion. My first reaction was to ease her guilt. I knew I could not react because I needed to be the support system she desires at the moment. More importantly, I do not think there is anything wrong with the decision she has made.

I respect the woman more who is aware she is not in the mental or financial space to birth and raise a child. I don’t think society, the government or your mama should make a decision based on YOUR life. My friend is a budding professional, educated woman and in the future will be a great mother, but today she is not ready for that responsibility. She does not want to struggle with raising a child and not being financially stable, and kudos to her for knowing that. A lot of times women bring children into the world and are not capable of raising, let alone, supporting a child. According to the National Center for Children in Poverty, “Children birthed to a parent/family who cannot 100 percent financially provide for that child can impede children’s ability to learn and contribute to social, emotional, and behavioral problems. It can also contribute to poor physical and mental health. Risks are greatest for children who experience poverty when they are young and/or experience deep and persistent poverty.” Essentially, it is imperative you can provide for your child in every facet of life.

While you will never be 100 percent prepared for a child, and yes you can lose all of your wealth at any moment in life, but that doesn’t mean you should be forced to bring a whole human being in the world if you know you’re not prepared. Additionally, your mental health should be aligned with your physical health. Everything should be ready, so to speak. If more mothers thought this decision through we would probably have less children running the streets, while their parents struggles to put food on the table and clothes on their back.

There is no handbook for motherhood. You can get all the advice in the world, do everything right and possible raise a terrorist, rapist or murderer. However, it doesn’t hurt to be prepared.

What's your position on pro-choice vs. pro-life? Comment below, tweet or email me at theprimandperverse@gmail.com.

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