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Open Thread: Let's Talk Domestic Violence, the NFL, Ray Rice and More

After observing the physical altercation, which transpired between Ray Rice and then fiancée, I needed a moment to gather my thoughts. Domestic violence is such a touchy subject I did not want to fly off the handle, so to speak.

Here is what I observed: Janay was evidently upset about something. Ray struck her not once, but twice. As a result of the second blow, Janay’s head hit the railing and finally she collapsed to the floor seemingly unconscious. Ray, visibly unmoved, steps over the body and attempts to drag Janay. Security, who obviously watched the altercation transpired via the security system, was present not too long after the elevator doors open. Security also did not check to see whether or not Janay was cognizant of her where abouts.

Here’s my biggest issue. Janay could have suffered an acute (inability to stand or balance, confusion, small cuts or bumps, headache, nausea, temporary memory loss and/or ringing in the ear) to severe head trauma (bleeding from deep cuts or wounds in the scalp, loss of consciousness, abnormal eye movements, inability to focus the eyes, loss of muscle control, seizures vomiting, slurred speech or vision, etc). Ray was unconcerned to see if his fiancée, whom he loves and wants to marry, was alive.

After viewing the video repeatedly, I trolled social media. I stumbled upon one post that said something along the lines “leaving isn’t as cut and dry.” As a daughter who watched her mother endure domestic violence at a very young age, I completely agree. However, my issue with this statement is we say it so often as if it’s physically impossible to leave. Then I read all the hashtags that followed: #WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft. I was nauseated, upset and angry. We have to stop reiterating it isn’t easy. Nothing in life is easy. Instead of focusing on how hard it is, let’s empower women to believe they can do anything and will survive anything.

My next issue is with the NFL. While many are praising the NFL for making an “example” of Ray Rice, I’m disgusted. Roger Goodell only decided to dish out a more severe consequence only after the video became public. You mean to tell me the NFL could not obtain a surveillance video from a casino? ESPN sports writer Jane McManus tweeted the NFL had access to the same evidence law enforcement had access to. The NFL only decided to take action as a mean to minimize bad press. Goodell and the NFL do not care or they would not have waited to indefinitely suspend Rice.

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