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#2016Goals: Obvious & Not-So-Obvious Bad Habits to Let Go of in the New Year

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As we prepare to usher in a new year, many of us are bright-eyed and hopeful for what 2016 may hold for us. As we turn a fresh calendar page, we are all hoping to resolve something in 2016. Some of us aim to eat healthier or lose weight, while others hope to advance in their designated career field (perhaps both). Unfortunately, University of Scranton research suggests that just eight percent of people achieve their New Year’s goals. Instead of aiming to lose weight and stressing over your career, let’s start with focusing on emotional and mental happiness. In order to do so that means freeing yourself of bad habits that may lead to unhealthy relationships leaving you feeling lonely and frustrated (two main causes of overeating). By ridding the negative qualities, you’ll in turn feel better and have more time to focus on becoming the best possible you.

Along with my semi-expert tips, I complied advice from friends and family. Below are the obvious and not-so-obvious bad habits to let go of, preferably before but at least, in 2016.

Obvious bad habits to let go of:

Holding a grudge

Being confrontational

Comparing your relationship to past relationships and/or friend's relationships

Keeping score- DJ Tumbo, Media Producer

Going through one's device (laptop, phones, tablets, etc.) -DJ Tumbo, Media Producer

Excuses: Excuses are the tools of the weak and incompetent. Used to build monuments of nothingness. Those who excel in it seldom excel in anything else but excuses- Unknown

Taking the relationship for granted-DJ Tumbo, Media Producer

Confusing love for lust-Devon Carr, Entrepreneur 

The silent treatment

Stubbornness: We are not always right. Sometimes we have to look at it outside of our perspective and see the bigger more inclusive picture - Ateara Garrison, Legal Assistant 

Selfishness: Love is a two way street we must give as much as we expect to receive- Ateara Garrison, Legal Assistant

Not-so-obvious bad habits to let go off:

Pride: It's okay to lose your pride over someone you love. Don't lose someone you love though over your pride- Fabolous

Forgetting to forgive (obvious but not really obvious)

Going to sleep upset at your significant other

Conforming to the rules society deems appropriate for relationships (make your own rules)

Communicating via text: Let's put the "personal" back into "interpersonal relationships" by minimizing communication via text

Allowing work and day-to-day routines effect romance and your sex life

"Being quiet" just for the sake of not arguing. Its important to communicate with respect. The mentality of "yes man" just to keep someone happy doesn't provide room for growth in any relationship. Whether it be romantic or platonic. -Jocelyn Pizarro, Stylist 

Giving up too much of yourself. Yes we must think as US, but for each of us to be the best for each other we have to continue to do the things that make us happy and not sacrifice them for each other. Builds resentment.-Ateara Garrison, Legal Assistant 

Settling for receiving less than you give freely-Candace Moore, English teacher

Stop making your spouse responsible for your happiness: Yes your spouse should contribute to your happiness, but they aren't solely responsible that's up to the individual. When we project that responsibility onto them we fight a continuously loosing battle. Furthermore you can't fight every battle, because your spouse isn't the enemy and this isn't the civil war. Spouses aren't mind readers, no matter how long you've been together never assume they know- Nafeza Kingston-Blackett, Domestic Goddess, Lifestyle/Branding Strategist

Not knowing when to choose your battles: It’s neither reasonable nor productive to be willing to argue over everything

If you have any tips to add, feel free to email me at theprimandperverse@gmail.com.

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