Can we talk about Molly from Insecure and why she's the real MVP
Last Sunday night, social media erupted following the premiere of the season finale of Insecure. Millennial men and women everywhere were divided. Men, who are now calling themselves #LawrenceHive, seem to have believe they've won the battle in love and war. As one friend tweeted to me, “That show was pissing me off til the finale. I was celebrating like I won the lotto.” If Lawrence is the pick to represent Black millennial men, then we are living in sad times. Lawrence had been unemployed for four years, sitting around their shared apartment working on his app, and continued to evade certain jobs because they weren’t good enough for him. Oh and let’s not forget oh boy forgot her birthday— a MAJOR NO, NO! Like how busy are you to forget my birthday? You ain’t got no job.
Men seem to be conveniently neglecting the root of the problem, which is the emotional and financial baggage Issa has been carrying by herself for years. I am in no way shape or form excusing her behavior. However, take it from the girl who lived this story line, the girl who supported her man through his unemployment and dreams, who gave the man credit for satisfactory effort and for just attendance in the relationship very reminiscent of Lawrence....that shit is draining. When you're the only one showing up emotionally, mentally and financially, as well as having to stroke the male ego (because let's be real the male ego must be stroked) it’s like coming home to a grown ass child. Since the dawn of the century, women have been dating the man with potential, and where have that got us? Many times, we're left drained, having no more energy for self-care and self-preservation. It's hard to decipher who is the guy who will stop at nothing to reach his full potential from the guy who will remain on the sofa in the living room.
In a heated debate, one guy friend said to me, “I just been laid off before and it sucks. I mean I still was getting unemployment and doing what I felt I needed to do as a man so my ex was rocking with me, but when you’re not where you want to be and you feel you can't provide it really sucks and sometimes you get in a rut.” But how long is that rut supposed to last? Not four years. At some point, you should humble yourself and apply for any job to handle your responsibilities. As Sheryl Sandberg pointed out, the traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but today that metaphor no longer applies. Instead of accelerating up or descending, we’re force to jump around like a jungle gym.
But, I am not here to defend Issa or tear down Lawrence. I understand he was having a rough time. Plus, no matter what I say you all are going to remain divided as if it’s 1998 and Sporty Thieves replied to TLC with “No Pigeons,” one tweeter puts it.
More importantly, why are we forgetting this season’s real MVP — Molly. Yes, Molly is emotionally damaged and has her own shit she needs to sort out, BUT as a BFF she held it all the way down. Shorty played major interference when Daniel popped up at Issa’s job like a wounded bird. Even when she was hella mad at Issa she offered to drive her best friend all the way back to the city, after they’ve been drinking (not the smartest idea, but we’ve all done it). She even consoled her outside on that nasty ass couch (let me remind you it has been on the sidewalk for some time now), and got her a bottle of wine when Lawrence ass upped and left like a thief in the night. Although, Molly couldn’t be a voice of reason in her own love life, she did drop some great gems on Issa. Remember episode three, as Issa groaned about her relationship, Molly eloquently inquired, “Well, have you told Lawrence what your issues are with him? Like really spoke it out because sometimes when you’re really in it it’s hard to see shit clearly. You sure it’s all on him? It does take two to make it or break it.”
And my girls are in agreeance, see below:
I mean Molly perhaps is a basket case, but she is who you want in your corner when it's time for a reality check. She's a double agent taking care of business as a rising attorney during the day, and refilling your wine glass by night.